How to Spot and Survive Backstabbers and Heart Stabbers:
Have you ever been screwed over by someone you trusted? Have you ever felt the agony of being stabbed in the back or in the heart by someone you cared about? If so, you are not alone. Many people have suffered the nasty actions of backstabbers and heart stabbers, who are people who act nice to your face but secretly screw you over or hurt you.
But how can you tell the difference between backstabbers and heart stabbers? How can you avoid falling victim to them? And how can you deal with them effectively? In this blog post, we will explore these questions and more.
What is backstabbing?
Backstabbing is a form of betrayal that involves someone being nice to your face but secretly screwing you over behind your back. A backstabber may say one thing to you, like pretending to care for you, but then tell others something totally different. In other cases, a backstabber might spread rumors and lies about you to make you look bad. You likely think of this person as a friend or confidant, but they’re not very trustworthy.
The betrayal that happens when someone backstabs you can be really damaging to your self-esteem and can make you doubt yourself. However, none of this is your fault.
What is heart stabbing?
Heart stabbing is a form of betrayal that involves someone hurting you emotionally or romantically. A heart stabber may be someone who cheats on you, breaks up with you without explanation, ghosts you, or manipulates your feelings. You likely think of this person as a lover or a potential partner, but they’re not very loyal or respectful.
The pain that happens when someone stabs you in the heart can be really heartbreaking and can make you lose trust in love. However, none of this is your fault.
Why do people backstab or heart-stab?
There are many possible reasons why people backstab or heart stab others, but none of them justify their actions. Here are some common motives:
1. Insecurity or Jealousy: They want to drag you down to make themselves feel better. It may be cold comfort, but you’re probably living a great life or enjoying some type of success.
2. Passive-aggressiveness: They are unhappy with something about you or your relationship, but they don’t communicate it directly. Instead, they find passive ways to handle their emotions. In some cases, they may act like everything is okay when they’re around you, but then talk badly about you behind your back or hurt you in subtle ways.
3. Self-interest: They are looking out for themselves and don’t care about how their actions affect you. They may be seeking power, recognition, favor, or pleasure at your expense.
4. Lack of empathy: They don’t understand or care about how you feel. They may have a personality disorder or a mental health issue that makes them unable to empathize with others
How to deal with backstabbers and heart stabbers?
Dealing with back stabbers and heart stabbers can be challenging and painful, but there are some steps you can take to protect yourself and move on.
1. Stay calm: No matter how angry or hurt you are, don’t act impulsively or irrationally. Take some time to process your emotions and calm yourself down before taking any action.
2. Fact check: Don’t believe everything you hear or assume the worst. Sometimes rumors can balloon out of control as people add their own interpretations to events. Worse still, some people may make up stories to sow discord between you and your friend or lover. Hence, you want to fact check the story first before jumping to conclusions.
3. Do damage control: If there has been any damage done to your reputation or relationships because of the backstabbing or heart stabbing, try to rectify it as best as you can. Address the false accusations or rumors with facts and evidence. Explain your side of the story to whoever they were aired to.
4. Confront them: If possible and safe, confront the person who betrayed you and ask them why they did it. Express how their actions made you feel and what impact they had on you. Listen to their explanation and see if they are sincere and remorseful. If they are, decide if you want to forgive them or not. If they are not, don’t waste your time and energy on them.
5. Cut them off: If the person who betrayed you is not worth keeping in your life, cut them off. Don’t give them any more chances to hurt you or manipulate you. Block their number, unfriend them on social media, and avoid contact with them. You don’t owe them anything and you deserve better.
6. Heal Yourself: The most important thing to do after being betrayed is to heal yourself. Don’t let the backstabber or heart stabber define you or your worth. You are not what they say or do to you. You are a strong, beautiful, and amazing person who deserves love and respect. Take care of yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally. Do things that make you happy and fulfilled. Surround yourself with positive and supportive people who appreciate you for who you are.
7. Learn from the experience: As painful as it may be, being betrayed can also be a learning opportunity. You can learn more about yourself, your values, your boundaries, and your expectations. You can also learn more about other people, their motives, their behaviors, and their signs. You can use this knowledge to protect yourself from future backstabbers and heart stabbers, and to attract more genuine and trustworthy people into your life.
Backstabbers and heart stabbers are people who betray you in different ways, but they both cause you pain and harm. However, you can deal with them effectively by staying calm, fact-checking, doing damage control, confronting them, cutting them off, healing yourself, and learning from the experience. Remember that you are not alone in this situation and that you can overcome it with courage and grace. Daily people are heart-stabbing me, but I am smiling and overcoming it. My life is in my hands not their hands I’ll never give them that choice. Listen to me guys never give up being unstoppable. I’m dedicating this poem to all my heart stabbers.
“Why Heart Stabbing”
They say they love you, but they don’t
They say they care, but they won’t
They say they’re sorry, but they’re not
They say they’ll change, but they’ll not
They stab your heart with every lie
They make you cry with every goodbye
They take your trust with every cheat
They leave you dust with every beat
They are the heart stabbers, the soul killers
The dream crushers, the hope stealers
The fake lovers, the real haters
The cruel masters, the fate makers
But you are stronger than their knives
You are wiser than their lives
You are kinder than their words
You are brighter than their worlds
You can heal your heart with every truth
You can smile with every hello
You can build your trust with every loyal
You can rise with every glow
You are the heart healers, the soul givers
The dream makers, the hope bringers
The true lovers, the real friends
The gentle teachers, the grace senders
You pierce my heart with every cruel word
You wound me with every false lie
You hurt me with every selfish deed
But I love you with every hopeless sign
You break my heart with every cold look
You tear me with every careless shrug
You reject me with every harsh move
But I need you with every desperate hug
You heal my heart with every warm smile
You fix me with every tender kiss
You comfort me with every gentle touch
But I fear you with every painful miss
I hope this blog post has helped you understand more about backstabbers and heart stabbers, and how to deal with them. If you have any questions or comments, feel free to leave them below. This blog is dedicated to my best friend! Thank you for reading!
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